Storms and Skies

I’m Not Fine

I’m not one for “toxic positivity.”

You won’t hear me say things like
“just think positive” or
“someone always has it worse.”

Because those phrases often dismiss something real,
the pain, the grief, the heaviness that needs to be felt.

Our ability to feel deeply,
to stay sensitive to our own struggles and the struggles of others, is not weakness.

It’s a superpower.

Life brings storms.

Some are light and passing.
Others shake everything we thought was steady.

And we’ve been taught, in so many ways, to stand in those storms and say:
“I’m fine.”

Even when we’re not.

We learn to hold it together.
To smile through the hail.
To keep going, no matter what’s happening inside.

But holding it all in…
isn’t emotional maturity.

Emotional maturity is something different.

It’s the ability to feel what’s real, without becoming consumed by it.

To allow emotions to move through you—
grief, anger, fear, sadness—
without suppressing them or letting them define you.

To recognize:
I am experiencing this… but I am not this.

There’s a concept in yoga philosophy that I love.
It’s the idea that we are not the storm, but the sky that holds it.

The weather changes.
The sky remains.

And so do we.

When a real storm comes, we don’t stand outside pretending it’s not happening.

We take shelter.
We gather with others.
We rest.
We wait.

We respect the storm.

And yet…

we can still find moments of awe in it,
the sound of rain,
the flash of lightning,
the power of something bigger than us.

Life’s storms are no different.

Some storms will pass quickly.
Others may leave things changed, even broken.

And in those moments,
we may fall apart.

We may need help.
We may need to rebuild slowly.

You’re not a failure for needing help.

That’s being human.

Release Control

The invitation isn’t to pretend the storm is beautiful.

It’s to allow it to be what it is
while remaining open to what it brings.

The clarity after.
The lessons within.
The unexpected growth.

Even the way it softens us.

Because if we can learn to sit with the storm,
to feel it, move through it, and not resist it,

something shifts.

Sensitivity becomes strength.
Awareness deepens.
Capacity expands.

We stop trying to control everything.

We begin to trust.

To let go.
To receive support.
To stay open, even in the hard moments.

You are not the storm.

You are the sky.

And no matter how intense the weather becomes,

the sky remains.

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